Fuck Being Normal

Aaj main kuch important lessons ke baare mein soch raha tha jo maine bhaohat saare valuable content, successful persons se seekhe hain, aur main unhe tumhare saath share karna chahunga. Yeh woh baatein hain jo mujhe bohat jaldi pata chali, aur inhone meri zindagi ko badla hai.

1. Apne Aap Se Rishta

Mujhe realize hua hai ki tumhara doosron ke saath rishta tumhare apne aap ke saath rishta ka direct reflection hota hai. Agar tum apne aap ke saath bura sulook karte ho, toh tum doosron se bhi wahi sulook bardasht karoge. Par agar tum apne aap ko izzat aur samman doge, toh tum doosron se bhi wahi ummeed rakhoge.

2. Earned Respect

Apne aap ko achha feel karwana tab aata hai jab tum aise kaam karte ho jo worthy hain. Respect di nahi jati, yeh tumhare actions se earned hoti hai.

3. Failure ko Apnao

Asli failure sirf yeh hai ki tumne koshish nahi ki. Asli rejection sirf yeh hai ki tumne poocha nahi. Asli galti sirf yeh hai ki tumne kuch risk nahi liya. Success aur failure sirf concepts hote hain humare dimaag mein action lene se pehle. Baad mein, sab kuch dono ka mixture hota hai.

4. Self-Reliance

Koi humein bachane nahi aayega. Koi ek achievement ya relationship hamare saare problems solve nahi karegi. Humein hamesha thoda inadequate aur dissatisfied feel hoga, aur yeh bilkul normal hai.

5. Partner Ban Jao Jo Tum Chahte Ho

Agar tumhe ek healthy, fit, loyal, aur trustworthy partner chahiye, toh tumhe pehle aisa khud banna padega. Kya tum khud ko date karoge? Agar nahi, toh yeh kaam karne ki cheez hai.

6. Long-Term Value

Zindagi ki sabse valuable cheezein—jaise health, wealth, knowledge, confidence, aur relationships—build karne mein time lagta hai. Jab tum young hote ho toh progress slow lagta hai, par agar tum lage raho to yeh long run mein incredibly pay off karte hain.

7. Short-Term Excitement

Jo chize initially exciting lagti hain jaise social media, casual sex, drugs, aur video games, unki bohat kam returns hoti hain. Yeh tumhe young age mein distract karte hain, par long-term happiness mein contribute nahi karte.

8. Focus

Hamari duniya opportunities aur stimulation se bhari hui hai. Agar tum exciting options ko turn down karne mein struggle nahi kar rahe, toh tum woh focus nahi ho jo ki tumhare liye zaroori hai.

9. Responsibility

Apne problems ke liye responsibility lena tumhare suffering ko kam karta hai jitna woh create karta hai. Yeh tumhe empower karta hai ki tum apne pain ke baare mein kuch actually kar sako.

10. Blame ka Power

Jab tum apne problems ke liye doosron ko blame karte ho, toh tum unhe apne upar power de rahe ho. Apne happiness aur wellbeing ko doosron pe depend mat hone do.

11. Authenticity

Agar tumhe kisi ko batana padta hai ki tum kya ho, toh tum waisa nahi ho. Rich, smart, ya confident logon ko yeh kehne ki zaroorat nahi hoti; woh bas hote hain.

12. Action se Motivation

Motivation action ka result hoti hai, cause nahi. Agar tum motivated feel karna chahte ho, toh apne goal ki taraf smallest step lo aur momentum tumhe aage le jayega.

13. Commitment aur Love

Love commitment ka result hota hai, cause nahi. Ek person ke liye commit karo taaki strong relationship create kar sako.

14. Competence se Passion

Passion accha kaam karne se aata hai, yeh uska cause nahi hota. Jab tum kisi cheez mein achhe ban jate ho, toh tum uske prati passionate ho jate ho.

15. Inherent Sacrifice

Jo bhi chiz worth having hai uske saath sacrifices aate hain. Jo insaan tumhe milta hai, jo ghar tum kharidte ho, jo job tum lete ho—sabke saath apne challenges aur sacrifices hote hain.

16. Meaningful Stress

Ek happy life stress-free nahi hoti, yeh meaningful stress se bhari hoti hai. Key yeh hai ki aise stress dhundo jo worth it ho.

17. Exercise as Investment

Exercise ko treats earn karne ya weight lose karne ka tarika mat samjho. Isse ek investment ke roop mein dekho. Jo energy tum daalte ho, woh time ke sath payoff karegi, chahe immediately nahi.

18. Trust People

Most log achhe hote hain. Trusting others se kabhi kabhi hurt ho sakte ho, par alternative hai ki sabko distrust karna worse hai.

19. Problems Persist

Koi zindagi problems ke bina nahi hoti. Wealthy ya poor, sabke paas problems hoti hain. Jaise tum grow karte ho, tumhare problems evolve karte hain, par disappear nahi hote.

20. Growth aur Pain

Growth aksar painful hoti hai kyunki yeh old values, behaviors, aur identities ko chhodne ki maang karti hai. In losses ko grieve karne ki ijazat do.

21. Normalcy ko Reject Karo

Statistically, ek normal insaan unhealthy, anxious, lonely, aur debt mein hota hai. Aim for better than being normal.

22. "No" Kehna Seekho

Agar tum "no" nahi keh sakte, toh tumhare "yeses" ka koi matlab nahi hain. Sacrifices define karte hain tum kaun ho. Agar tum kuch sacrifice nahi karte, tumhari koi identity nahi.

23. Flexible Identity

Kaise tum apne aap ko define karte ho uske prati careful raho. Ek rigid identity tumhe confine karti hai. Apne aap ko loosely define karo taaki tum zyada adaptable ho.

24. Avoid Assumptions

Doosron ya apne baare mein assumptions mat banao. Hum aksar apni zindagi ke baare mein objective nahi hote.

25. Self-Consciousness

Koi tumhare baare mein itna nahi sochta jitna tum sochte ho. Log apne baare mein sochne mein busy hote hain.

26. Confidence from Failure

Confidence failure se comfortable hone se aati hai, success ki expectation se nahi.

27. Be Willing to Be Disliked

Disliked hone ke liye tayar hone se tumhe woh karne ki freedom milti hai jo zaroori hai.

28. Criticism ko Accept Karo

Tum logon ki zindagi me bina kuch criticism se badal nahi kar sakte. Impact kuch level ka criticism laata hai.

29. Health Basics

Roz floss aur sunscreen lagao. Trust karo, baad mein tum mujhe thank karoge.

30. Extraordinary Results

Extraordinary results tab aate hain jab ordinary actions ko lambe time tak repeat kiya jata hai. Overnight successes aksar saalon ki hard work ka result hoti hain.

31. Partners Wisely Choose Karo

Partner choose karna sirf romance ke baare mein nahi hota. Woh tumhare confidant, counselor, career advisor aur zyada ban jate hai to wisely choose karo.

32. Love’s Limitations

Love relationship problems fix nahi karta. Yeh sab kuch amplify karta hai—accha ya bura.

33. Trust aur Integrity

Trust relationships ki currency hoti hai. Honesty aur integrity healthy relationships ki foundation hain.

34. Common Denominator

Agar tumhari sab relationships mein wahi problem hai, toh tum common denominator ho.

35. Emotions aur Responses

Koi bad emotions nahi hote, sirf bad responses hote hain. Apne negative emotions ko constructively channel karna seekho.

36. Morning Routines

Morning se better koi time nahi hai kaam karne ka

37. Prove Karne Ki Zaroorat Nahi

Tumhe kisi ko, including apne aap ko, kuch prove karne ki zaroorat nahi.

38. Advice Ko Try Karo

Life advice kapdon ki tarah hota hai. Try karo, aur agar fit nahi hota, toh discard kar do.

39. Difficulty Ko Embrace Karo

Kuch meaningful easy nahi hota. Difficult chize avoid mat karo, aise difficult chizen dhundo jo tumhe pasand hain.

40. It’s Never Too Late

Badalne ke liye kabhi der nahi hoti. Tumhare paas seekhne aur grow karne ke liye zyada time hai jitna tum sochte ho.

Yeh lessons ne bohat logon ki zindagi ko shape diya hai, aur mujhe umeed hai ki yeh tumhare journey ke liye bhi valuable insights offer karenge. Yeh sab growth, responsibility, aur yeh sab kuch samajhne ke baare mein hai ki change hamesha possible hai aur sirf padhne se kuch nahi hota.